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Emmanuel! God with us! ABBA REALLY HEALS! (Part 3)

EMMANUEL! GOD WITH US! ABBA REALLY HEALS! PART 3

Copyrighted by Elder Dorn J.B. Wheatley Walker (Author of “Life After Loss: A Journey Into Wholeness”).

We have gone through the Thanksgiving Holiday; Christmas is this Friday and the 2016 New Year’s celebrations will quickly follow. While many have had great family fun times and are jubilantly celebrating, others are increasingly growing weary of their emotions that are continuously spiraling downward. (Please see parts I and II of this article). The good news is that we don’t have to just cope with our emotional hurts, we can be healed! ABBA Father stands ready to bring comfort and healing during difficult times.

As I think of my own emotional healing, I know that Abba really heals. At the age of 23 I suffered the loss of a husband, sister and uncle within a 7 month period. My young nephew tragically died 8 years ago. My Dad died 3 weeks after the exciting start of our Church Ministry in 2010 and my Step Dad suddenly died in September. However, through each situation, I know that Father God is truly my Source of Healing and Wholeness and that He is with me comforting me throughout every trial. He has healed me from past and present hurts and I am His Ambassador; fully persuaded and determined to represent Him in the earth—He is the Healer and the Great Physician over all of our cares, brokenness, burdens, worries, issues, and stress; no matter how deep the emotional pain.

Part I of this BLOG encourages us to recount our own story of brokenness and admit that we need help. Part II declares that many people are spiritual widows or spiritual widowers. These are people who are in a complete broken state. Complete brokenness can be the result of the loss of a loved one, loss of self-esteem, loss of integrity, loss of peace or perhaps the loss of a right standing with God. Each loss in our lives has the potential to result in further chaos and turmoil if it is not identified, controlled, and healed. If you find yourself without a true sense of direction or focus in your life because of a loss or brokenness you must make the choice to find help.

In this third BLOG, we will travel a little further to unmask every emotional pain that is weighing us down and find help from ABBA who really heals. We will define the emotional pain and name our enemies. Then, we will confront them head on. We will give them to Abba who will take all our hurts and fill all of our empty places. Remember that our goal is to be healed and made whole and to move through the Holidays knowing that God is with us and comforting us every step of the way.

How do we define our emotional pain and how do we name our enemies? For starters, we begin by identifying the losses, hurts, issues, as well as every associated sinful behavior that stems from every out of control emotion. We stop and ask ourselves, why am I acting this way? Is this normal or healthy? What is the root cause of this type of behavior? Am I masking something else? Am I getting heavier and more weighed down as time goes on? Are the people around me troubled, weary, and affected by my spiraling emotions? Do people try to avoid me because of my spiraling emotions?

Too often we suffer from shadows which are the unidentified that lurks, stalks, and plagues us. Giving your emotional pain a name adds substance to those shadows and causes us to more clearly understand our issues. Let’s begin to add substance by categorizing our emotional pain into these areas:

Loss of Loved One
1. If you suffered the loss of someone close to you, write down his or her name.
2. Have you ever accepted the loss?
3. How do you feel about this situation?
4. Do you still experience emotional responses to this loss?
5. Do you have suicidal thoughts as a result of this loss?
6. Do you sometimes blame that person for leaving you behind?

Loss of Self Esteem
1. When you look at yourself in the mirror, do you like what you see? Why or Why not?
2. Do you see a beautiful or handsome person with potential and purpose in life? Why or why not?
3. Do you see someone whose existence is valuable to the world? Instead, do you see someone with little or no value; someone who is unworthy of love and admiration of others including God?

Loss of Peace
1. Are you burdened today and burdened on most days?
2. Are you easily frustrated with life?
3. Do you fear life and are fearful of making simple decisions?
4. Do you lack peace and feel as though you have no resting place?

Loss of Integrity
1. Do you believe that you are morally sound and complete?
2. Do you feel trustworthy and do your actions follow your words?
3. Is your standard of life based on God’s word, current trends, or approval from friends and family?
Loss of Right Standing with God
1. Do you truly know your creator? Is Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior
2. Do you know God well enough to trust Him even when things go wrong?
3. Do you have a sin that so easily entangles you? When you fall into this sin, do you feel that God is far away from you and that He hates you?
4. Do you sense God’s mercy, love, and grace, continuously in your life?

Any other areas of Loss not identified
Identify when the emotional pain began. Also identify every reoccurring symptom that you are experiencing.

Carefully circle every strong negative word that appears in your answers to each question. Do you see any reoccurring theme (such as anger, loneliness, fear, rejection, abandonment)? These are the enemies to your emotional pain.

We are now ready to take every enemy to ABBA who really heals. Boldly draw a tall and thick cross and begin to add every negative word to every area of the cross. If you are honest with yourself, you will notice how quickly the cross is filled up. Some of you may not be able to recognize the shape of the cross after adding all of the strong negative words on the drawing.

The purpose of this exercise is to remind us of Isaiah 53:4 and 5 in the Amplified Bible. “Surely He has borne our griefs (sicknesses, weaknesses and distresses) and carried our sorrows and; pains [of punishment] yet we [ignorantly] considered Him stricken, smitten, and afflicted by God [as with leprosy]. But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our guilt and iniquities; the chastisement [needful to obtain] peace and well-being for us was upon Him, and with the stripes [that wounded] Him we are healed and made whole”.

This passage of scripture identifies what was happening on the cross when Jesus was smitten, stricken, and afflicted by all of our hurts, pain, sins, and everything that threatens our well-being and our wholeness. Your marked up drawing represents those stripes that wounded Jesus more than 2000 years ago. Before He formed you in your mother’s womb He knew you. He knew every emotional pain and incident that would occur in your life. But, Jesus also had a plan to bring us “peace” in the midst of every stormy situation. We must remember that Jesus died so that we might live. He took on every one of our concerns and they were nailed to cross with Him. Jesus declared at His death that it is finished. As you look at the cross that you marked up with all the negative words, release every emotional pain and declare that it is finished. Jesus already bore it for you.

Now remember that Jesus’ life did not end with His death. He rose from the dead so that you too might rise up to an abundant life of healing and wholeness. Receive the abundant life by receiving and experiencing the power of Christ’s resurrection in your own life. ABBA is able. Your wholeness is dependent on this act of courage. Turn it over and give it to Him now! ABBA really heals!

Copyrighted by Elder Dorn J.B. Wheatley Walker (Author of “Life After Loss: A Journey Into Wholeness”).

ABBA REALLY HEALS!

ABBA REALLY HEALS!
Life After Loss:29 years later. (copyrighted By Elder Dorn J.B. Walker)
(Part I)

As we near the holidays, I am mindful that as some are preparing for precious family times and elaborate menus and décor, the emotions of others are beginning to spiral down. So I am stirred to write to all who would read and receive comfort during this difficult time. It’s been a while; but there is never a written word until Abba inspires me.

As I think back some 29 years ago, I know that Abba really heals! (Father God is truly our Source of Healing and Wholeness). He healed me and I am His Ambassador; fully persuaded and determined to represent Him—He is the Healer and the Great Physician over all of our cares, brokenness, burdens, worries, issues, and stress; no matter how deep the pain.

As you read this BLOG, don’t cry for me, I am free and my prayer is that you too will make the right choice to freedom! On this very date on October 21st in 1986, I became conscious of eternity and I was presented with pressing choices at the young age of 23—the choices were screaming—WHAT WILL IT BE? My choices included: (1) Do I settle with depression, heartache, stress, and emotional pain? Do I wallow in self-pity with a constant victim mentality? OR…there it was the big OR; (2) Would I be willing to accept and receive the Love, Joy, and Peace instead of my destructive emotional PAIN by learning to live free with Jesus, God’s only begotten Son, who rules and who reigns? Yes, He wants us to reign with Him and to truly experience the power of His resurrection from every low place. We can get to that place and we can get there now!

I am so free and yes, I didn’t and I don’t suppress! Suppression is a fake place and I don’t wear masks or believe in them. No masquerades for me please! What you see is what you get! I like and I am attracted to real things—because they make us “free” to be who we were always meant to be. This is a beautiful place of no hindrances. As I learned to turn over my crazy life to Jesus, He taught me how to move forward intentionally, cautiously, and purposefully until everything that hindered no longer blocked my view to freedom’s destiny.

As every emotional moment seemed to press me down, I looked forward to the supernatural RISE to higher heights and to a deeper sensing of Abba’s love and closeness. I simply learned that no matter what, He WILL NEVER LET GO! He has me!

In my book, “Life After Loss: A Journey Into Wholeness”, my very first Pastor, the late Dr. Charles Phillips writes in his foreword—“By death, divorce, abandonment, rejection, or any other of life’s occasional cruelties, it hurts to lose. The sense of loss is difficult to articulate in that its intangibility is relative. Paul states in Second Corinthian 1:8, “…that we were pressed out of measure…” As this great apostle tried to express the depth of his despair, there was no way to measure it. There was just the sense of pleasure exhausted. The unfortunate part of passing this way is that many feel destined to remain at this state in life. If you are one of those who arrive at this address; you have several options open to you. The choice you make will determine your future…”

Yes, we have the power to choose. As we choose, don’t bargain and switch relentlessly. God is not into the business of bait and switch. We can make permanent choices that will forever change us and mold our future with permanent strength and wholeness. Keep in mind that our wholeness directly or indirectly affects everyone around us—either positively or negatively. When we choose wholeness, everybody wins. Come on, GO FOR IT! As you choose to win, everyone around you will also win and that is some awesomely great news! (Whole people attracting whole people–wholeheartedly!) Wow, I like that! It came right through me…I would not have thought of that!

Here is my story—Part I

On October 21, 1986, my husband’s death began a series of tragedies that left me feeling trapped in an enormous storm with gigantic whirlwinds. (Yes, I became a widow at the age of 23.) On this date, I was a college student with 6 weeks left to complete my bachelor’s degree in Accounting—and I had to choose–I also had a 4 year old daughter—I became a single parent and I had to choose. I had no job—but I had to choose.

I will never forget that day. I was home studying for an exam while my husband, Steuart H. Wheatley, went fishing with friends. At about 4:00 p.m. the Police called my home to tell me that there had been an accident. The Police went on to say that your husband had accidently drowned—His voice trailed off in the distance…My life instantly turned into a nightmare which I knew I had to wake up from—If I stayed there, I would die and I wanted to. What a pitiful state. Four days later, my Uncle Emmanuel Bertrand died suddenly from a heart attack. A month later, a $150,000 lawsuit was filed against me from a traffic incident that occurred two years earlier. Also, I learned that my oldest sister, Gloria, was terminally ill with breast cancer. She died seven months later. Gloria was a second Mom to me and I loved her dearly (As I write this blog, I also honor my sister and remind all of us about breast cancer awareness Month).

I cried uncontrollably for weeks. I was suicidal, numb, and I could not sleep. My motivation for life was gone and I almost dropped out of College because I saw no reason to continue. I was losing my mind and I felt as though no one understood what I was going through. My tragedies were too much for me to bear. At the age of 23, my life should be just beginning. Instead, it felt as though it ended…Why, God, why?

I came to a point of brokenness and surrender. This is the place where new life begins. Will you take a few moments right now to recount your own story of brokenness? Take your time. You may want to start with a diary or a piece of paper and allow all of your emotions to press through. Healing begins when we admit that we cannot in our own strength put the pieces back together again. ( I wish Humpty Dumpty had caught on to this. We could have saved him!) On a serious note, recounting the story of your emotional pain has a purpose. Your story is as a dirt filled bucket that needs to be dumped. The dirt represents the hurts, disappointments, and emotional pain in our lives. Any solution (liquid) added to the dirt will only turn into mud…the mud represents a constant life of obscurity, confusion, and darkness…with bad choices; always going around in circles; and with a foot hold of always living in bondage. The reality is that We need to yield the dirt to God who can supernaturally unload the filth! This is the 1st step…in your Journey Into Wholeness…Hold on and stay tuned for Part II. God can and will take you there. Let us journey through the Holidays together! Love, Joy, and Peace be unto you.

Copyrighted by Elder Dorn Wheatley Walker (Author of “Life After Loss: A Journey Into Wholeness”).