ABBA REALLY HEALS! PART 2

ABBA REALLY HEALS!
(Unresolved emotional pain can be dangerous)
(Part 2) Copyrighted by Elder Dorn J.B. Walker

As I continue with Part 2, I am repeating my concern that as some are preparing for precious family times and elaborate menus and décor, the emotions of others are beginning to spiral down. This is why I am stirred to write to all who would read and receive comfort during this difficult time.

As I think of my own emotional healing, I know that Abba really heals. (Father God is truly our Source of Healing and Wholeness). He healed me and I am His Ambassador; fully persuaded and determined to represent Him—He is the Healer and the Great Physician over all of our cares, brokenness, burdens, worries, issues, and stress; no matter how deep the pain.

Part I of this BLOG encourages us to recount our own story of brokenness. Take your time as you pen it in your diary or where ever you choose. Be real in expressing your emotions because healing begins when we admit that we cannot in our own strength put the pieces back together again. I also stated that before I could fully come to grips with my need to be healed, I had to fully acknowledge my total brokenness and I had to fully surrender to the fact that I was weak and helpless and could not do a thing about it. This is the place where new life begins because we now give God the opportunity to come into our lives and point us to “Wholeness”. Remember God is the Healer and the Great Physician. However, the only way to God is through His Son Jesus the Christ. I encourage you to give Jesus an opportunity to come into your life right now. Acts 2:21 says that whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved.

If you have accepted Jesus Christ into your life, this is the beginning of acknowledging Him as the real and only healer. Some of you may say: Well, I have already accepted Jesus into my life but, I have some serious emotional hurts. Welcome to Part 2! This section is critical because it speaks of the fact that “Superficial Christianity can be dangerous”. The reality is that we hurt over the loss of our loved ones because we miss them so much. We were connected to them for a length of time and we had a special relationship with them. However, if we accept Jesus Christ and do not have a personal relationship with Him, we will find ourselves with a superficial understanding of God and never experiencing His delivering power. We must take the time to know God personally.

For example, some may quote short and easy phrases when asked about their well-being–by saying “I’m blessed and highly favored” or I am blessed by the best”. This is all good and I truly believe in prophesying over our lives. However, true healing shows up when we are real with God and ourselves and when we have a personal intimacy and relationship with the One who heals. Quick and easy quotes may only serve as band aids to cover up the real turmoil that is still occurring in our lives. If we don’t have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ we will find ourselves pretending to be a victorious Christian, without understanding what it really means to have victory in our lives.

God showed me that many people are spiritual widows or spiritual widowers. These are people who are in a complete broken state. Complete brokenness can be the result of the loss of a loved one, loss of self-esteem, loss of integrity, loss of peace or perhaps the loss of a right standing with God. The emotions of a spiritual widow as well as a traditional widow have the same effect upon us. We often feel paralyzed and unable to move forward with life. With a full understanding of God, we can move forward because He makes all things possible in our lives.

Isaiah 33:6 says that wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of our times and the strength of our salvation. We must allow ourselves to grow both in the wisdom and knowledge of God because “Unresolved emotional pain will become dangerous”. While going through emotional hurts, we become vulnerable and an open prey to the enemy who wants us to fall into deeper depression that may cause all types of sinful behaviors and turmoil in our lives. I Peter 5:8 tells us to be sober, be vigilant because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walks about seeking whom he may devour. If we don’t take the time to grow closer to God, we may fall so low that we find ourselves dying spiritually. This would be a greater problem. So please don’t allow yourself to die spiritually.

In summary, each loss in our lives has the potential to result in further chaos and turmoil if it is not identified, controlled, and healed. If you find yourself without a true sense of direction or focus in your life because of a loss or brokenness you must make a choice. Imagine yourself in a car driving into the land of despair. You can continue to drive the car further into despair or you can stop and park until you determine how to find hope. If you can relate to being in this position, I recommend that you stop the car and park until you determine how to find hope. Cry out to God who brings hope and comfort. Stay tuned for Part III on the subject: Defining the Emotional Pain and Naming Our Enemies.

Elder Dorn J.B. Wheatley Walker (Author of “Life After Loss: A Journey Into Wholeness”).

ABBA REALLY HEALS!

ABBA REALLY HEALS!
Life After Loss:29 years later. (copyrighted By Elder Dorn J.B. Walker)
(Part I)

As we near the holidays, I am mindful that as some are preparing for precious family times and elaborate menus and décor, the emotions of others are beginning to spiral down. So I am stirred to write to all who would read and receive comfort during this difficult time. It’s been a while; but there is never a written word until Abba inspires me.

As I think back some 29 years ago, I know that Abba really heals! (Father God is truly our Source of Healing and Wholeness). He healed me and I am His Ambassador; fully persuaded and determined to represent Him—He is the Healer and the Great Physician over all of our cares, brokenness, burdens, worries, issues, and stress; no matter how deep the pain.

As you read this BLOG, don’t cry for me, I am free and my prayer is that you too will make the right choice to freedom! On this very date on October 21st in 1986, I became conscious of eternity and I was presented with pressing choices at the young age of 23—the choices were screaming—WHAT WILL IT BE? My choices included: (1) Do I settle with depression, heartache, stress, and emotional pain? Do I wallow in self-pity with a constant victim mentality? OR…there it was the big OR; (2) Would I be willing to accept and receive the Love, Joy, and Peace instead of my destructive emotional PAIN by learning to live free with Jesus, God’s only begotten Son, who rules and who reigns? Yes, He wants us to reign with Him and to truly experience the power of His resurrection from every low place. We can get to that place and we can get there now!

I am so free and yes, I didn’t and I don’t suppress! Suppression is a fake place and I don’t wear masks or believe in them. No masquerades for me please! What you see is what you get! I like and I am attracted to real things—because they make us “free” to be who we were always meant to be. This is a beautiful place of no hindrances. As I learned to turn over my crazy life to Jesus, He taught me how to move forward intentionally, cautiously, and purposefully until everything that hindered no longer blocked my view to freedom’s destiny.

As every emotional moment seemed to press me down, I looked forward to the supernatural RISE to higher heights and to a deeper sensing of Abba’s love and closeness. I simply learned that no matter what, He WILL NEVER LET GO! He has me!

In my book, “Life After Loss: A Journey Into Wholeness”, my very first Pastor, the late Dr. Charles Phillips writes in his foreword—“By death, divorce, abandonment, rejection, or any other of life’s occasional cruelties, it hurts to lose. The sense of loss is difficult to articulate in that its intangibility is relative. Paul states in Second Corinthian 1:8, “…that we were pressed out of measure…” As this great apostle tried to express the depth of his despair, there was no way to measure it. There was just the sense of pleasure exhausted. The unfortunate part of passing this way is that many feel destined to remain at this state in life. If you are one of those who arrive at this address; you have several options open to you. The choice you make will determine your future…”

Yes, we have the power to choose. As we choose, don’t bargain and switch relentlessly. God is not into the business of bait and switch. We can make permanent choices that will forever change us and mold our future with permanent strength and wholeness. Keep in mind that our wholeness directly or indirectly affects everyone around us—either positively or negatively. When we choose wholeness, everybody wins. Come on, GO FOR IT! As you choose to win, everyone around you will also win and that is some awesomely great news! (Whole people attracting whole people–wholeheartedly!) Wow, I like that! It came right through me…I would not have thought of that!

Here is my story—Part I

On October 21, 1986, my husband’s death began a series of tragedies that left me feeling trapped in an enormous storm with gigantic whirlwinds. (Yes, I became a widow at the age of 23.) On this date, I was a college student with 6 weeks left to complete my bachelor’s degree in Accounting—and I had to choose–I also had a 4 year old daughter—I became a single parent and I had to choose. I had no job—but I had to choose.

I will never forget that day. I was home studying for an exam while my husband, Steuart H. Wheatley, went fishing with friends. At about 4:00 p.m. the Police called my home to tell me that there had been an accident. The Police went on to say that your husband had accidently drowned—His voice trailed off in the distance…My life instantly turned into a nightmare which I knew I had to wake up from—If I stayed there, I would die and I wanted to. What a pitiful state. Four days later, my Uncle Emmanuel Bertrand died suddenly from a heart attack. A month later, a $150,000 lawsuit was filed against me from a traffic incident that occurred two years earlier. Also, I learned that my oldest sister, Gloria, was terminally ill with breast cancer. She died seven months later. Gloria was a second Mom to me and I loved her dearly (As I write this blog, I also honor my sister and remind all of us about breast cancer awareness Month).

I cried uncontrollably for weeks. I was suicidal, numb, and I could not sleep. My motivation for life was gone and I almost dropped out of College because I saw no reason to continue. I was losing my mind and I felt as though no one understood what I was going through. My tragedies were too much for me to bear. At the age of 23, my life should be just beginning. Instead, it felt as though it ended…Why, God, why?

I came to a point of brokenness and surrender. This is the place where new life begins. Will you take a few moments right now to recount your own story of brokenness? Take your time. You may want to start with a diary or a piece of paper and allow all of your emotions to press through. Healing begins when we admit that we cannot in our own strength put the pieces back together again. ( I wish Humpty Dumpty had caught on to this. We could have saved him!) On a serious note, recounting the story of your emotional pain has a purpose. Your story is as a dirt filled bucket that needs to be dumped. The dirt represents the hurts, disappointments, and emotional pain in our lives. Any solution (liquid) added to the dirt will only turn into mud…the mud represents a constant life of obscurity, confusion, and darkness…with bad choices; always going around in circles; and with a foot hold of always living in bondage. The reality is that We need to yield the dirt to God who can supernaturally unload the filth! This is the 1st step…in your Journey Into Wholeness…Hold on and stay tuned for Part II. God can and will take you there. Let us journey through the Holidays together! Love, Joy, and Peace be unto you.

Copyrighted by Elder Dorn Wheatley Walker (Author of “Life After Loss: A Journey Into Wholeness”).